self esteem

I have to wake up again. Be concious and independent. Build up back my self- esteem, be organized,self disciplined, highly motivated, and focus on priorities. I guess myself in the past wouldn't want to see me being pathetic over small matters. I should not let this happen. Because if it is than Im in WASTE. And I should not that let happening because I love myself.

On building up self esteem: there are 10 ways,


1.discovering your true self: identifying your true weakness and strength, feelings and thoughts, where are you headed in life, what does success mean to you.

2.make a list of what you like about yourself: appreciate the positive abilities and personalities. Learn how to love yourself, like improve how you look and never try imitate others. Just love the real you.

3.Never compare yourself with others because you yourself are unique. Never belittle yourself. ( This used to be princip of mine, its like a taboo to belittle myself because it shows your weakness and never show weakness to others as they'll take advantage, and showing of your weakness diminishes your aura). Count your blessings as for good things in life i.e family, health, talents and it does magicaly stimulate the sense of happiness. Always say thank you. Do the best with what god gives you.

4. reengineer yourself. Identify and discard false beliefs on yourself. and set the 'I can do it' positive attitude, because success is 80% attitude and 20% aptitude. practise postive self talk and talk about your winners. Never underestimate your abilities. Overcome your fear by doing the exactly thing that you fear e.g height, loneliness. have faith in god for the things that is beyond your limit and hope for the best.

5. Accept 100% responsibilities for your life. Make firm decision to change your life for the better. determine goals, long terms and short terms. goals should be attainable, reachable and relevant.celebrate your accomplishment and success.

6. let go perfectionisme. No one is perfect. give yourself freedom to fail because perfectionist never feel good enough. Avoid having unreasonable expectations of yourself and others. Avoid labelling yourself or induldge in self criticism.

7. Let go of yournegative past and look to the future. treat mistakes and failures as learning experience or stepping stone to success. avoid saying 'I can't do it' but instead say 'I haven't be able to do it now, but I'll never give up' Be courages and always ready to take risk.

8. WAKE UP HAPPY ! =D start your day with positive thoughts and smile. Associate with high achievers and friends who nourishes. Develop good sense of humor =). Avoid NEGAHOLICS.

9. Monitor progress. Review progress towards the attainment of goals and take corrective action. Adapt well to changes in your life. Maintain perseverance and self discipline.

10. lead a balanced life and seek continuos self improvement. Maintain health through proper nutrition , exercise and sufficient rest. Accept constructive cricticism as one stops learning without it. As how my mum quoted over dinner '' you get comfortable with compliments but you grow up with comments''

Guess I need to work out on balanced life since Im making myself use to having bed time at 4 am and morning at 12 am. So, really, I need to work things out alot. yes, I can ! =)